Have you ever had the experience of the whole world stopping and time feeling infinite? For many people, the closest thing they have had to this experience is sex, or more specifically orgasm. Sex has the power to give us a glimpse of what lies beyond our immediate awareness. Sexual experiences are one of our first spiritual experiences in life, even if we don’t recognize them that way. Experiencing orgasm is a transcendence of time and space through pleasure..
There is a saying “How you do one thing is how you do everything,” and this is particularly interesting when it comes to sex. If we just go through the motions, we are limiting what we can experience and keeping ourselves locked in mediocrity. Sex can be used as something to numb you, to release energy, to escape reality, or it can become a meditation, a form of prayer and an opportunity to connect with yourself, your partner and the world around you on a deeper level.
Let’s talk about flow-state
Flow-state is a state of mind that allows for optimal performance. Many athletes talk about getting into “the zone” and that is also a form of flow-state. In this state, one loses time perception and gains an intensified awareness, heightened intuitive abilities, and their genius is more available to them. Flow-state produces a high quality state of mind that allows for effortless action and grace. We want to experience flow-state more often, and the brain can be primed to flip into flow state more easily, the more we experience it. We can call upon it at will because it is like a muscle that can be trained.
How do I use sex to improve my state of mind?
Practice allowing your pleasure to consume your mind. Practice becoming completely absorbed by it and surrender to the energy that’s being generated by the union of two bodies, charged with the electric energy of pleasure. When you can apply meditative principles to sex, you will be able to expand your flow state. It takes willpower to focus your mind when wielding such a powerful force as your sexual energy, but once you do, you will not want to make love any other way!
So many of us have been shamed around our sexuality. We have been told it is sinful, we have experienced abuse, etc. Because of this it is very difficult to surrender completely and utilize its energy for healing. In order to use your sex to lift up your whole life, it is important that you begin to change your perceptions of sex. At its most animal level, it can be lustful and aggressive, often obscured by oppression. At the highest, most pure level it is the vital feeling that fills you when you are excited or inspired. It enhances your cognitive state and when your mind is activated, more of your genius is available to you! Because of this mind state that can be attained in flow-state, the act of sex has the potential to be a life-changing phenomenon. By entering into sexual union and activating your flow-state, you are paving the way for more flow-state consciousness to occur.
By lifting up the most basic instinct, the most human-animal part of you, everything you do is lifted up. You begin to experience the world from a higher perspective because even your most basic instinct has more consciousness within it. This informs the rest of your system and you will notice as you begin to operate your life with more grace and feel more awake, aware and available to show up for your truth.